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On Wed, Jul 21, 2021 at 04:18:05PM +0000, David Duff thus spoke:
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> I'm nowhere as learned as you are (but I do IQ at 143, so I'm not stupid)
> BUT I do know how to express an opinion WITHOUT insulting the other
> person, something you really, really need to learn.

No, I really don't.  Whether or not you choose to take insult is on you.
Hell, 80%+ of communication is on the interpretive side.  I stated my
opinion.  Like you, I stand by mine.  I didn't use any ad hominems.  I made
observations based upon your own admissions of your practises.  If you
don't -like- my results, well you can 1) reject them out of hand, 2) take
them to heart and change how you do things to achieve a better result, or
3) take offence and play the victim.  You apparently chose the third.
Your loss.

The only thing of which you're a victim here is your own admissions of
your own practises.  I'm not going to feel sorry for you.  You dug that
hole yourself.

> There are nicer ways to get your message across to us lesser talents and
> then, we might actually listen to you.

You're not paying me to be nice.  You're not actually paying me a fucking
thing.  You therefore don't get to dictate the manner in which I couch
things unless it's being done on your dime.  Specific couching can be
bought.  So can my silence, for that matter.  Inquire privately about my
rates for those services.  You're paying for neither special couching
nor silence, so you get the corresponding result, which is my candid,
unvarnished opinion.  I really don't care whether or not you feel like
taking offence.

You're offended?  So what?  Fine, I'll see your offence, and raise.  I'm
now offended that you're offended.  Now you've victimised me.  "ZOMG,
my world is ending!"  See how meaningful taking offence isn't?  You're
-so- using the wrong ammunition on the wrong person.  I was born well
before 1980; I'm made of sterner stuff, and will not be cowed like
some millennial.  Hell, Esak -and- JPR couldn't take me down, and they
-actually- knew their stuff.  Better people than you have tried and failed.
(Funnily enough, I ended up as friends with both, as well as Stockler and
Vermillion, to name a few.)

Look, you voluntarily put your own practises out there for public
inspection and consideration.  They received the consideration they're due,
and the evaluation was not favourable from this party.  If you don't like
the results from someone you claim to respect, then perhaps you should
reconsider the practises which led to those results.  Or perhaps you just
shouldn't put out there the sheer idiocy of what you're doing.  As one
community in which I'm involved likes to say, "Play stupid games, win
stupid prizes."

> By the way, it's also good for business. Nobody wants to do business with
> person who thinks that they are better we are, no matter how good that
> person may be.

Anyone who has -actually- worked with me professionally (and there are far
more here than will publicly admit it, which is absolutely fine by me)
knows that I'm quite professional when I'm on their dime.  They pay for
that privilege, and I conduct myself accordingly in those relationships and
surrounding all related business activity.  You'd be surpriesd how many
of the people who might even disown me publicly have zero problems with
(and even enjoy) not only working with me privately, but even (*gasp*)
socialising with me a bit.  And I forged those relationships when I was far
younger, and far less mellow, so I'm not particularly worried.  Anyone who
doesn't value me as I am, well...that's their problem, always has been, and
always will be.  I'm not an approval-seeker, and I don't require anyone's
validation.  My results speak for themselves, and that's all I need to
sleep well at night.

> No insult intended, just a pointer in the right direction.

I'm just fine, thanks.  Hell, you -can- insult me and it's not going to
really have any effect.  I'd have to respect you for your opinion to mean
a damn to me, and that's simply not the case.  You haven't earned that.
Given your practises, your original mistake in publicising them, and then
your foolish attempt to chastise me for calling you on them (not to mention
whining about how), you're not likely to do so anytime soon, either.  Hell,
you can't even -buy- my actual respect.  You -can- buy a feigning of it,
though.  Again, you may inquire privately about the rates for that feature.

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